An oncologist, a patient, a hospice, and a goodbye
This post is not about ethical wills but it is very much about saying what needs to be said. I just now came across this blog post written by oncologist Don S. Dizon, MD, about saying goodbye to patients, especially those going into hospice care. I think this doc has guts and a strong heart.
It has been quite a while since I have read something so concise, yet so moving. I offer it in the hopes that it will move some of you to think about what needs saying by you, but have not yet quite managed it.
My own experience of illness, loss, and the kindnesses of others has prompted me to say now the things I previously stored away in my heart – sharing gratitude in the moment is important. We never know when an opportunity is the last one we will be given.
And regret, especially for kindnesses not offered, gratitude not expressed, is a corrosive burden. Lighten up. And thanks to Dr. Dizon for his example.